Wishing You Champagne Dreams and Minded Manners


November 28th, 2011

The night they invented champagne
It’s plain as it can be
They thought of you and me
The night they invented champagne
They absolutely knew
That all we’d want to do is
Fly to the sky on champagne
And shout to everyone in sight
That since that world began
No woman or a man has ever been as happy as we are tonight!

-Lerner and Loewe, from the musical “Gigi”


The night we drank too much champagne
Was an embarrassing night indeed.
The spill stretched
from the sculpted green carpet to the Harris Tweed.
No woman or man or woman we ever met
Was as upset
Of ruining taffett(a) as the VintageGent and Gent-ette!

- V-Gette

Ah, yes…the holiday dinner party. This time of year, the party invites are too numerous to do more than “put in an appearance” at while the Champagne and wine hostess and host gifts insulate every cabinet, hope chest and ice box. Liquor is a traditional gift, and therefore a retro choice, but its time to update the etiquette book.

Tried and True Etiquette:

  • As has been tradition, do not expect the bottle to be opened and served with the meal or during cocktail hour.
  • If the host/hostess should offer you the unopened bottle to take home, insist that you intended it as a gift, but do not make a spectacle of yourself. The host/hostess may have assumed the bottle was for dinner. If they insist, graciously accept.
  • Do not give guests free tickets to your sideshow. If the host/hostess offers alcoholic beverages, do not drink to the point of interesting propositions and colorful language. Rather, enjoy a glass properly balanced with food or follow with soft drinks.

Coffee or soft drinks is a safe second course.

The New Etiquette

  • Observe the host/hostess. If they have never been observed nursing a glass of mashed grapes, they might not drink alcoholic beverages for medical or personal reasons. If they do not, rethink the gift.
  • Offer to be a designated driver. Deliver revelers home, and swiftly return to the party.
  • Choose theme wines and champagnes. A selection that has a connection creates conversation if the host is not a particular wine connoisseur. Choose a wine from a newcomer’s native state, or something with an unusual or clever name. While impressing someone with good taste is important, humor breaks the advice, so long as the name is not off-color. The point of a party is to converse, not to dazzle other guests with your snobbery.

Did I invite you over? Then I might interest you in my uncle’s special vintage, adorned with inkjet paper labels. I have no idea which variety I have, since water droplets splashed on it and ran the ink.  Guests will surely play “name that wine.” Bring your own and tear off the label. Should be fun. Cheers!

Fashion Swap


November 28th, 2011

Ever since Wagglepop came and went, the inbox runneth over with press releases, pitches and recommendations for new auction and selling sites.  Tradze.com is a new one to me. Apparently, its in the barter websites format. Users list items that they want to get rid of, and other users may trade for them with credits. Each user receives 200 credits for signing up, and from there, credits are accumulated through listing like-new and collectible items for the perusal of other site users. The site heavily promotes users to sign up their family and friends, so they can swap through their own trusted network. There is a clothing category in the mix.

Upon inspection, there is little to no Feedback action. Either users are not ingrained with the courtesy of leaving other users feedback stars, or the site just has little action. The site itself appears to be in the early stages as some pages, such as FAQ, are not quite filled in yet. Users do have to register to flip through the item catalog. Be persistent, as almost always only four items show up. Click on subsequent page numbers to browse the entire category.

The full potential of the site lies on the concept of users having a comfort level of bartering in “T-Bills” that only work on this site, versus receiving money. It will not attract folks hoping buy and sell to raise some cash, but it will attract users who truly just want to rid themselves of a few items. There is great potential for an established group to barter, such as a special interest hobby club, a parents group, or an association to park their people there and make it their own. Hosting a clothing swap sometimes is hard to get together because of conflicting schedules and an uneven representation of sizes. If the extended network swapped with credits, everyone would be held accountable to delivering.

In the meantime, I’ll be watching to determine if this is a worthy place to score a fashion find.

Thanksgiving Delight


November 24th, 2011

No one, apparently, got the memo that Christmas music is absolutely not to be played until at least the day after Thanksgiving? If i ruled the world, the sleigh bells wouldn’t ring until December 15th. This way, we could all truly enjoy it instead of burning out on it by December 5th.

Dad, ever the astute observer always defends his position with: “There just are no Thanksgiving carols, are there?” maybe not when he was growing up, butt if you delve into the early days of rap and hip hop and transport yourself to 1979, there is ONE Thanksgiving carol, even though it is hidden within a 14 minute, 36 second long song.  Well, the Sugar Hill Gang probably didn’t intend it to be festive.

We used to trick dad into listening to the full version when we didn’t want to clean our rooms. “Dad, listen to JUST this one song. It’s really short.”

Have you ever went over a friends house to eat
and the food just ain’ no good?
I mean the macaroni’s soggy the peas are mushed
and the chicken tastes like wood.

So you try to play it off like you think you can
by sayin’ that you’re full,
and then your friend says momma he’s just being polite
he ain’t finished uh uh that’s bull.

So your heart starts pumpin’ and you think of a lie
and you say that you already ate
and your friend says man there’s plenty of food
so you pile some more on your plate.

While the stinky foods steamin’ your mind starts to dreamin’
of the moment that it’s time to leave
and then you look at your plate and your chickens slowly rottin’
into something that looks like cheese.

Oh, so you say that’s it i got to leave this place;
I dont care what these people think
I’m just sittin’ here makin’ myself nauseous
with this ugly food that stinks.

So you bust out the door while its still closed
still sick from the food you ate
and then you run to the store for quick relief
from a bottle of kaopectate.

And then you call your friend two weeks later
to see how he has been.
And he says i understand about the food
baby bubbah but we’re still friends.
With a hip hop the hippie to the hippie
the hip hip a hop a you dont stop the rockin
to the bang bang boogie
say up jump the boogie to the rhythm of the boogie the beat

May your Thanksgiving be full of cozy, Rockwell-inspired moments (Norman, not the “Somebody’s Watching Me” Rockwell and far more delectable food than what the Sugar Hill Gang was subjected to.

The Windsor: Where Wands/Walruses/White Houses Meet


November 22nd, 2011

This post brought to you by Zenni Optical. All opinions are 100% mine.

Just a ponderance: Harry Potter added another reason why the Windsor eyeglass style remains iconic, but are children who wear the style automatically enlisted in the cool club or are they mercilessly teased ** if they are over a certain age?

Now that Harry Potter has put down his wand, at least on the screen, what is to become of the Windsor eyeglasses, trend-wise? We've all seen this before. John Lennon popularized the style in the 60s and 70s, and prior to that President Theodore Roosevelt sported them and so did Ben Franklin. Does there need to be a "cool down" period for folks to expand their associations? It seems like few consider the Windsor merely a classic, perennial style and most merely use them as an excuse to catcall "You are the Walrus!!!" or "Where's your wand?"

Of course, going with the style that best bits your face shape and features is never out of style. Personally, I only think folks poke at them is if, say horn rims, Windsors, or black plastic frames don't fit your face. THEN folks get awfully non-creative.

If you are really looking to try a trend and don't want to commit to $300 + 3 years of your life, you can always go to the costume shop and buy some falsies – some twisted wire Windsor or some glassless Buddy Hollys. Sifting through the thrift store rack is cheap, but you'll have to pop the lenses out. You can also try some places like Zenni, that have cheap eyeglasses and get your prescription. A basic Windsor runs about $19.00 including basic, single vision lenses vs $100+ at the optical store vs $5-15 at the costume shop vs a buck or two at thrift lens-less. I'd take the pair that I could see out of – with the 80+ savings I could afford some clothing to go, or better yet, I'd psyche people out. Have a completely different pair in my pocket. When someone makes a comment, I'd just pop the other pair on and turn around. "What glasses? Oh these?"

**= No, teasing is not bullying! Innocent (notice, I said innocent) teasing is a child or preteen's way of trying to get the attention of another child in an unlearned and ungraceful way. They just lack the social skills to say "Greetings, fellow child. I don't know you, but I want to get to know you and I am a clod," "Or dearest bff, I am a little cranky today. And I am upset that you have an older brother and a dog, and I am envious of that condition."


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Standing on the Corner…Watching all the Icons Whiz By


November 20th, 2011

This post brought to you by LG DoublePlay™. All opinions are 100% mine.

Silence used to be golden. Driving to and from was almost a moving meditation. I sat in my car, listened to silence or music and the burdens in the head began to clear. Nothing was really that important that couldn't wait until I returned home or to the computer. Now, I lost several connection opportunities and jobs because I didn't answer my messages.

Then, I started accessing the browser on my cell phone, but struggled with the number keys. Oh well, at least I knew someone was looking for me so could circle back. Then why did I suddenly feel that I had to answer them? Probably because I was making the emergencies of other people my own emergencies.

Where is my keyboard?? Truth be told, I tried a smartphone and it took me a minute to stay in control of my icons that seemed to whiz by me with a slip of the finger, but now I have the hang of it.

I noticed that LG DoublePlay™ that T-Mobile offers has both the Qwerty keyboard and the touch screen format. The keys are microscopic, but you can't compare them to a computer. If one focuses on the qualities of the keypad as a typist's tool, its a major improvement. The fingers are less crowded, as the keyboard is split in half. For the true multi-tasker, or scatterbrain, depending on how you look at it, there is actually more touch screen icons between the split in the keyboard.

Yikes. Things do change at a lightning pace don't they, as far as technology? So glad that the tie, long underwear and the three-button suit evolve at a creeping pace. There is some comfort in stability, at least. I am holding onto my old phone until it becomes "retro." Maybe it will be dead, but it would make a great prop.

Do you think having everything all front and center will affect the way you text and network? How many texts would you say you send, and how much time to you use your phone for social networking, in hours? My last text message was at 1:46 on Thursday the 17th. It was a good friend of mine asking me to call her. Folks don't usually text me unless I don't respond and they want to get my attention while I am on the phone. If you add up all of my time texting from the past six months, it probably works out to one hour!

How would the The LG DoublePlay™ change how you interact with your social networks? I think that for me, it would make things more front and center so more people could text and Facebook message me to call them…because I am not picking up my phone for some reason.


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A Brief History of Skincare: New (?) Under the Sun


November 17th, 2011

Tanda Skin Care recently created a chart about the history of skin care. Some of the info I was already intimately acquainted with, laced with tidbits of shocking new. While the madness and illness lead powder left behind is legendary, I had no idea that it was used for spot treatments as late as 1900. The idea of exfoliation and microdermabrasion is actually not so 20th and 21st century. The earliest skin smoothing junkies used sand paper to soften their outer layers and slough away scars. I thought the strigil was abrasive, but at least Romans at first covered themselves in oil so scraping all the dirt away at least would glide more like a razor. It is all conjecture, as of course, strigils are just not something you see at the store these days. If so, they would be mistaken for a personal possession of Captain Hook. You’ll have to settle for a squeegee.

The only thing “new under the sun” might be treating psoriasis with UV lamps and also acne light therapy. Then again, English doctors sent ailing patients to the south of France and Italy to hopefully healed by the sunlight. It is merely the act of going to a professional and receiving blue light in an isolated and concentrated fashion.

What grooming practice today do you think we will look at quizzically ten, fifty, or even one hundred years from now?

Acne Light Treatment.

Via: Tanda Skincare

My Strange Addiction


November 17th, 2011

Thanks for the guest post by Esteban Vinson

I am a total sad movie addict. I know most people don’t enjoy feeling sad, but could there possibly be anything better than curling up in a warm blanket on the weekends and watching a good tearjerker on Direct TV?

I have a lot of friends who think I am really strange because of this, but to me, it’s totally normal. My mom, sister and I all have this strange penchant for loving sad movies. I have too many favorites to even name. I’m not a movie snob who only watches the Oscar winners either. I love them all, even the bad ones.

I sometimes get upset when I go to the movies to see something that I think is going to let me get a good cry in and then it ends up having a super happy ending. I know most people go to the movies for a bit of fantasy but everything can’t have a happy ending! I guess I like it so much because I’d rather cry about something completely made up than something that really happens.

Halloween 2011: The Night of the Living Sheen


October 17th, 2011

Trick-or-Treaters can never go wrong with a ghost costume fashioned from a thrifted bed sheet or older brother’s graduation frock and a purchased witch hat. Along with perennial classics, each new crop of Halloween costumes brings a new slew of nods to recently-at-the-movies superheros and topical references.

What is everyone wearing this year?

According to the news on the street, which is every Reuters and AP press release, the guy at the local shoe repair shop and a gent overheard at the local pub, among the top three predictable or unusual trends are as follows:

1) Zombies. Did I even have to mention this one? Zombies are the new vampires–well, not exactly “new” anymore, but these things take time… (Speaking of vampires, you apparently have to have “Team Edward” moussed hair these days. A classic Drac with 1,000 pounds of gel doesn’t seem to cut it anymore. Team Bela! No, kids that is NOT a typo.)

2) Charlie Sheen. Really. No “I have dark brown hair so I am going as myself” cop outs. You really have to “sell” this one. The shirt has to be right, a bottle of Tiger Blood ale and perhaps even a thought bubble to carry around with a Sheen-ism.  Sadly, you can actually buy a premade  Sheen costume and this wouldn’t merely be among the Adult Halloween Costumes for a grownup party, as  your 12 year old is on Twitter.

Lady Gaga would be another choice celebrity getup, because you could dress like Carmen Miranda or a telephone and everyone will think you are going for Gaga anyways.

3) Smurfs.  This time, Smurfs aren’t only aKids Halloween Costumes a la 1984, but for adults, too. For toddlers, its adorable. The jury is out on Uncle Sid.

Are you dressing up this year, or are your day to day duds scary enough?

Hit the Freezer Aisle for the Next Three Martini Lunch


October 12th, 2011

This post brought to you by T.G.I. FRiDAY'S. All opinions are 100% mine.

A few weeks ago, there was no posh piano bar with a WiFi signal at 11:00 at night, so I unspiffed myself and limbered down to the local donut shop incognito to take advantage of those laser beams when my signal conked out. Two gentlemen were talking in booming tones about the inner workings of a new health center opening up. Why would one want to divulge the secret budgets in public like that? Anyway, the consumables included a coffee or two, several scoops of ice cream and half a salad. Way back in the cobwebs, memories of uncles and cousins entertaining customers at three-martini lunches seem like something out of Mad Men. Even ten years ago, it was at least T.G.I.Friday's instead of the Steakhouse or the Shake-It Bar.

Entrées For One

Now, the budget is even more paltry if deals are made over donuts. Why not trick your potential business partners? T.G.I.Friday's now has dinners in the freezer section of the grocery store. You could buy Styrofoam take out boxes and meanwhile heat up some T.G.I. FRiDAY’S “Entrées for One” in the back. Simply plate them and act as if you are trying to hide the boxes, and guests will think that you spent a lot of green at the restaurant and took the care to order each person something to their individual taste. After all, you can't get Cajun Alfredo from a can. How very thoughtful of you!

All you thoughtful folks can hurry up and vote inr the Fun Freezer contest. Entrants have gussied up their freezer or entire fridge with a theme – from the post it note mosaics to a head to toe end zone theme. While I don't doubt your 50s Frigidaire or your Harvest Gold from Grandma is cool, these are a lot of fun to look at.


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Win a $500 Suiting Makeover


October 8th, 2011

This post brought to you by Express. All opinions are 100% mine.

While many of you prefer to hunt thrifts and vintage shops for classic suits from the 40s through early 60s, sometimes you just have to break down and buy something new off the rack. This was particularly true when the first "grownup" job came my way. It was great at first to wear classic clothing, but when the wear or tear of suits five days a week was realized, a new suit came into the closet.

Old wool is infinitely sturdy and cleanable, but a bout with correction fluid was enough to change my mind on using my favorites as work horses. Sure, for important occasion and client meetings, but not for day to day. The dress code seems to have relaxed, but there is still a need periodically to find something that is currently trendy without worrying about doing it in.

I miss, in some ways, getting up and tossing on a suit in the morning just because it was such a "no brainer." The real thinking that went into coordinating yourself happened when you purchased the items to go with each other. Surely different accessories were rotated in and weeded out, but there was a canvas for it all (whether we are talking women's or men's suits), and surely the jacket style was updated periodically if you did not opt for timeless classics. Even timeless classics change. There was not the guess work that goes in to creating a look that is smart, but casual, but doesn't look like you thought too much about it

Need a spruce up? Those folks at Express are having yet another opportunity to distribute a major clothing prize. The winner will receive $500 in suiting. How's that for a quick makeover? It seems right now that with the slim fits, folks who like the slimmer three button suits of the early 60s – very Mad Men. Enter the Express sweepstakes and try one on, or do I have to twist your arm?

Which style of suit do you favor the most? Do you still wear suits to work? If so are you the lone rogue in a casual office? Or are you usually all about denim and only don one on a special occasion, such as your own wedding? Maybe you are the type that transforms themselves in the evening for the piano bar. Comment and let me know.


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Toms: An Internet Success Story for a Cause


October 7th, 2011

The shoe manufacturer, Toms has run a campaign to donate a pair of shoes to a child in need for every shoe that a paying customer buys. During their first year of operation, they sold 10,000 pair of shoes, and donated 10,000. Not too shabby! However with good, search engine optimization, including a robust Twitter presence, Tom’s donated one MILLION pairs of shoes to children in 23 countries. Similar success was repeated by One Hope Wine.

Social Good
Via: Wpromote

Its amazing what can be done with just one shoe purchase or the click of the “Like” button. It seems that internet campaigns are replacing the old fashioned act of going door to door to neighbors to collect funds for a cause.  It seems so much easier to raise funds for a cause when the individual would purchase the clothing anyway, but might choose to buy sooner for the cause. What do you think about promoting a cause with your wares

One might say that Tom’s is a large operation and “my little shop needs to be known as the ‘best kept secret.’ I could never handle it.” Well, it is all relative. If you did just a little to increase your linkage and presence, a little shop that sells 3 items a month could sell even 10 items a month…you never know!

Educate the Nation


September 30th, 2011

(At left: President Woodrow Wilson and granddaughter Ellen Wilson McAdoo )

In 1945, an educational disparity was recognized. Professor Whitney Oates at Princeton notice that many bright and promising students that served our country in World War II were not returning to complete advanced degrees. When the ear of an important donor was bent, a plan was devised to attract returning G.I.’s to continue the advanced Ph.D.’s studies they left before.

At that time, the full scope of the G.I. education bill, its demand and use had not been realized. However, with this effort answered the shortage of folks with specialized degrees who could become the college professors of the future to handle the influx of the educational needs of the baby boom shortly later.

Through teaching fellowship programs through the Woodrow Wilson Foundation, named after the only Ph.D.-holding president, 13 future Nobel Laureates and 14 Pulitzer Prize winners received advanced degrees over the years.

Today, you can get a leg up, too. If you hold a degree in the sciences or mathematics, you can apply an receive a fellowship, teaching computers, teaching mathematics or other sciences, such as biology. If you do not currently hold a bachelor’s degree, you must be scheduled to graduate by June 2012 for this round. Selected fellows receive a $30,000 stipend to pursue a Master’s Degree.

What’s the catch? To apply, you need to have maintained a 3.0 grade point average on a 4.0 scale, and commit for three years to teaching computers, math or science to students in underserved areas where specialized teachers are needed most. The school might be in a rural area, or an area with a higher than average poverty ratio. After that, you may teach where you wish.

There is a cap of 30 teaching fellows per campus. Campuses of eligible schools are located in Michigan, Ohio and Indiana. You need not graduate with your bachelor’s from these institution, but you must consider completing your Master’s Degree there.

Are you ready to impact a few lives, an even the education of a nation? To apply, visit www.WWTeachingFellowshpo.org and have an impact on the future of science and technical education.

Planning a Boardwalk Empire theme party for the season premiere


September 29th, 2011

Guest post written by Janet Thomas

Thre are few occasions when it seems like I don’t really find an excuse to dress up. It’s so much fun and I’ve loved playing fashion and dress up since I was a littel kid. Well that’s definitely carried on into a lot of theme parties that I started having when I was in college and have just kind of continued over the years.

As you can probably guess, I really love following all of these costume period dramas and checkin gup on all hte different things that are going on with my new favorite show Boardwalk Empire with my wireless internet Chicago. It’s just so interesting to see and hear the things as they’re reimagined during that time.

I’m planning on throwing a Boardwalk Empire season premiere party. I think that it’s going to be so much fun and I already have a few great outfits from my Grandma that I’ve already picked out. Now finding vintage pieces from the 20s or that look like they belong in the 20s can be pretty tough, but that’s a challenge I love taking on.

Jersey City: Grit and Suspense Minus the Big Hair


September 25th, 2011

This post brought to you by Untitled Jersey City Project. All opinions are 100% mine.

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Untitled Jersey City Project is a show that is currently a "work in progress." Eight very short fragments, or mini-episodes will be released. Unlike many other stories told in short bursts, there is no "pay off" at the end of each one. Rather, when you see all eight, everything comes together and makes sense. Some threads will be wrapped, but some will remain loose and hang in the wind for speculation. Once you have seen all eight episodes, things will come together and make better sense.

The only thing really graspable here is the tone and mood of the show, which now intrigues me to find out if this is just another cop or crime show presented in a gimmicky way or if it is the sign of something new. I am curious. While similar genres of hustling, grifting, crimes and the occasional cop might seem tired, the field is always open for something new. Just don't send us "Cop Rock" again. Please.

Recently, I considered how many shows were based in New Jersey and how many of them were petitioned for promoting a negatively gritty or tacky, depending upon the show, image of the state. No one is exactly producing the revival of "Touched by an Angel" there, or the "The Fashionably, yet Conservatively Dressed of New Jersey." I have been to Mawah and know people that do not wear cheetah platforms do exist. Really.


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Furniture for 5 Year old Grown Ups


September 20th, 2011

Ah, the furniture of youth. The 1950s Danish Modern dresser was so passe in the early 70s, such that it lived out its existence in my cousin’s room.  It’s finished was slightly marred by the occasional Batman sticker, not discreetly affixed to a low corner like a maker’s mark, but smack-dab in the middle of the first or second drawer. Attempts to remove were met with bald wood or a papery footprint. There was no in between.

Karen Keane, expert over at the Antique Roadshow would just be gobsmacked. Apparently she is not quite that flappable. It relieves me to hear her say:  “The trade market is filled with compromised pieces,” and doesn’t seem to poo-poo them for daily use.  Faded paint is apparently a beauty mark, but she says nothing about Batman.

No one ever seemed to have “kid furniture” in my family. You had a crib. When you were old enough, you got you mom and dad’s or cousin’s cast off set. No race car beds. Oh, but occasional bunk beds. We were the original urbane hipster babies.

I was reminded how urbane we all were as tots when I perused The RoomPlace furniture stores website and inspected the comforting selection of bunk and Captain’s Beds.  I always wanted a Captain’s Bed with all the drawers, but I was too much of a packrat and I spawned from those types of parents that thought a five year old would fall to their death in one. But that is what the metal slide-in railing that we could get our head caught in was for, no? My cousins were the lucky ducks. As the third born on that side of the family, there was still one random dresser and head board left. As fourth born my cousin, M, had bunks. We were all very close in age, so there was no chance of a hand me down from an older cousin. By the fourth, it was time for new furniture.

Further into my journey on the website,  I came across something more familiar. The “five year old adult” decor I was so accustomed to

My brother had a bachelor pad-ish black lacquer set that had been an uncle’s during his heyday. Now, its gone through a major transformation and it seems it is back at a retailer – but this time marketed specifically to kids. Well, not to kids. Whoever has the check book.  In many ways, it makes sense to create furniture to follow the child into the teens and kick all the pieces out the door with them when they leave.

Maybe the folks at the The RoomPlace furniture stores have the right idea. After that, your cinema room or hobby room is right around the corner without adding on.

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